🙏🙏🙏 HELP - I can't ask for "Help."
Why do we believe we have to do life on our own? Why do we freaking kill ourselves, drown ourselves, starve ourselves, before we ask for help?
Lets first find out what asking for help has meant to my ego and possibly yours. (Make your own list)
Soleiman's Ego Talk
- I am weak
- I am not man enough
- I am not good enough
- I am stupid
- I am dumb
- I am a loser
- I am incapable
Wow, if my ego thinks these things, no wonder it is so hard to ask for help. Everyone take a deep breath in and open your mouth and sigh it out. I have so much compassion for myself and the millions of other people around the world who have a hard time asking for help.
Now, how have I worked with this and "continue" to work with this and my ego.
First, I have looked at all the beliefs that my ego has made up about what it means to ask for help and I have asked, “Is it true.” (Byron Katie's - The Work). I almost always cry and say, “no it’s not true.”
Second, I have looked at my martyr hood or victim hood. Oh poor me, no one is here to help me, I am all alone, I don't deserve to be helped, I am.... fill in the blank.
I have learned through many many years of mindset work that I am not a martyr nor a victim. I choose to take full responsibility for my life and my actions. I get to ask for help, and I trust that others can take care of themselves and say yes or no.
Third, I have asked people to keep me accountable. This is when you know you have come along way, because this ask is a help ask. I have asked people to come up to me and ask me, "I see you are doing work on your own, would you like company or would you like to be alone." This gives me choice to ask for help or ask to be left alone.
I know you can do this. Give it a try, you will feel so much better once you do. 😉😉😉
You can try it on me if you life.
Sending you big hugs and stay safe.
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