Practice, Practice, Practice

“I want to be a better lover.” A phrase I hear quite often when I tell people I am a sex coach. 

This is a very great statement or question, however you think about it. The challenging part is that most people aren’t willing to take the journey to get there. 

It sounds similar to these…

“I want to lose weight.”

“I want to be fit.”

“I want to make $1 mil dollars.”

“I want a partner.”

These all hold a common thread, whether you want a lover, lose weight, make more money or find a partner.

What daily practices are you putting in place to achieve or attain them?

In the instance of being a better lover. What daily practices do you have in being a better lover to yourself first and foremost? Yes, yourself. 

Please stop looking outside of yourself. To be a better lover to someone else, you first need to be a great, amazing, fantastically fantastic, unicornicly, bombastically, superfragacalalisticexpealadociously lover to yourself. 

A good chief learns to cook good meals for themselves first and then cooks for others. I personally would not want to eat someones food if they haven’t cooked meals for themself before.

Here are a few daily practices you can put into practice. They are simple, but hold a lot of energy done over a long period of months, even years. 

Conscious Breathing 

Take 10 minutes a day and breath consciously, being aware of the inhales and exhales of your breath. 

Self Touch

Touch yourself for 10 minutes a day. By touching I mean all over your body and not just your genitals. Cheeky little fucks. Try all different sorts of touching. What do you like? What does your body enjoy? Maybe one day you like one and another day you like something else. 

Whatever practices/rituals you take on, stay consistent. 

“The reason diets and self-help courses and weight-loss programs and other how-to’s don’t work for most people is the same reason most how-to books and courses don’t work for most people. It isn’t that the actions are wrong. It’s that people don’t keep doing them. Focusing on the actions, the what-to-dos and the how-to-do-its, is not enough, because it’s the attitude behind the actions that keep those actions in place.”

Olson, Jeff; David Mann, John. The Slight Edge: Turning Simple Disciplines into Massive Success and Happiness

Big Love, 
Soleiman Bolour